Love is Not in the Falling, it is in the Staying.

            Picture a tree on the playground of an elementary school.  If you look closely you will see Bobby + Suzy 4-Ever inside a big lopsided heart carved into the bark. Or better yet picture a pimply-faced boy walking through the forest, with a pained expression on his face, scribbling sappy drivel on post-it notes and sticking them to trees.  This is what I envision when thinking of most people’s concept of love.

            Few truly understand the nature of love.    Like carving on a tree most have  barely scratched the surface when it comes to love.  Many are  in love with the idea of love more than actually in love with their mate/spouse/etc. or the reality of love.

            I am not disparaging of love I only wants you to see a version of love that can make it in the real world.  Human beings are flawed.    People  need to be loved for their faults as well as their virtues.  I am aware that love is a “madness” and know that it is easy in the beginning to be awestruck and silly, but I want you to find a love that will prevail over time and the day-to-day drudgery of a relationship.

If you listen to nothing else, please heed this advice: Do not to put your love on a pedestal.  Pedestals can be capricious places!

Love is not in the falling, it is in the staying. 


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5 responses to “Love is Not in the Falling, it is in the Staying.

  1. I’ve been with Michelle now for…er…decades. (Quickly does maths on fingers, pulls sock off and continues on toes.) Thirty years, give or take a few months. I’m not sure if that’s love or just laziness.

  2. bgbowers

    This is profoundly true. Anyone who has worked at being in a successful and mature, long-term relationship knows these words to be true. The falling part is easy, but it is fleeting, and shallow. Of course, staying is sometimes easy too – especially when it is related to fear or laziness.
    I would so love to have that coffee and conversation with you. I love that you’re a deep thinker. All the good ones are 🙂 x

  3. I was fortunate enough to find my soul mate at 14 and he was so perfect that my entire life was a fairy tale. And now that he is on the other side, all the castles and unicorns are gone. But I think he sends me a rainbow now and then.

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